1. Comfort is Overrated
I use bold to mean uncomfortable. So, what “be bold” really means is “embrace discomfort.” It is discomfort that produces awareness and growth — not comfort.
Sure, comfort feels good. It wraps you up in easiness and coddles you. It’s safe and warm, and lulls you into inaction. It likes to keep you where you are. It convinces you not to push beyond your self-imposed limitations.
Comfort persuades you to stay in relationships, careers and cities you’ve outgrown. It is one of the most powerful forces behind dreams deferred, risks not taken and life unexplored.
You cannot be both bold and comfortable at the same time. Boldness requires you to step outside of your comfort zone.
If you want to integrate more boldness into your day, ask yourself a simple question before completing a task or making a decision. What is the easiest, most comfortable action I can take? Then, eliminate that option and go with one that causes you a little more apprehension.
2. Commitment is Underrated
It’s funny how commitment has the ability to minimize fear. Once I bought the plane ticket to Indonesia, fear took a back seat to planning the trip. Maybe that’s because we feel fear when we think we are in some kind of danger; if the danger isn’t real, the fear is just imaginary, too. The commitment, however, is real.
The more you commit to yourself and follow through on your commitment, the more you will learn to trust yourself. The more you trust yourself, the more confident you will become.
The more confident you become, the less you will allow fear to stand between you and the thing you want to do. And the less you allow fear to stand between you and the thing you want to do, the bolder you will be.
3. Most Fear Only Exists if You Make it Real
When fear tries to stop you from making a commitment you really want to make, ask yourself if the danger is real or imagined. Nothing that I feared happened! I was breathing life into a fear of danger that never existed.
Compare it to the regret you will feel if you let fear win. Fear or regret? Which would you rather feel?
Fear is temporary. Regret is forever.
Cultivate a habit of making more commitments to yourself and keeping them. Start small and commit often. Promise to call up a friend you haven’t spoken to recently, take a walk, speak up in class or offer a suggestion in a meeting.
Commitments that cause you a bit of uneasiness are the best ones to make and keep because the more you embrace discomfort and conquer it, the more you will welcome it for opportunity it presents.
Soon enough, you will get to the point when not doing something you said you would do will cause you more discomfort than doing it.